Bed Spectacles

This past week hasn't been a whole lot of fun.  My back decided that now would be a convenient time to be in a constant state of pain, leaving me frustrated and limited.  For whatever reason, I woke up last Monday morning and pretty much ever since it hurts to do just about anything - walk, stand, sit, drive, etc.  Although, as my friend Alex pointed out - it could be worse.  This could have happened a year ago when I was moving back from Missouri and getting ready to catch a plane to Africa.  Good point, my friend.  My cousin and I had plans to go to Kings Island for the day on Friday but I told him there's no way I'm getting on a roller coaster at this point because I'll probably never be able to walk again if I do. 

But amidst all the pain, what I have wanted more than anything is a pair of bed spectacles.  What are those, you ask? Well, if you have ever seen the movie The Bucket List, you know exactly what I'm talking about.   Jack Nicholson wears a pair in the movie and nearly every single time this week when I've been either flat on the floor or laying on my bed trying to watch TV, I always think, "Man, those bed spectacles would be so handy right about now."  No matter how crazy they make you look.   I mean, who doesn't need a pair of bed spectacles at least once in their life, right? :)

You Want ANOTHER picture?

Taking photos in our household is an ordeal usually.  Every Christmas - and I do mean every - my mother insisted on getting a photo of my brothers and I in the stairwell before we could come down and see our presents.  It used to drive us insane - and probably still does if we're totally honest - getting these photos taken.  Not because we were in such a sure-fire hurry to get to your presents but because my brothers and I are not fans of making a fuss of things and my mother can be quite the opposite sometimes.  Maybe "fuss" isn't the right word.  We just don't like having our picture taken, quite simply.  It's an extra step we could do without.

However, that inevitable moment comes when I've had to look at my mom and genuinely say, "I'm glad you took all those photos."  Trust me, I've had to eat my words on more than one occasion regarding the matter.

But if I didn't like taking photos, then my brothers definitely did not like having their photo taken.  For any reason.  At any time.  But something strange happens when you get married, when you have kids, when you buy your first house.  You suddenly want to have your pictures taken and maybe don't mind it quite as much.  Because maybe you know how important those photos are and will be.

So, in the spirit of engagements and weddings and all that that entails, my middle brother, Josh, recently had to shoot his engagement photos.  An entire photo shoot of just him and his fiancee.  The things we do for the ones we love.

But either way, after the shoot ColumbusBride.com picked up a recent article that featured Josh and Megan's photos, their story, and the photographer behind the shoot.
     

Even before the dress search, cake tasting and honeymoon planning get under way, you and your fiancee likely will head out to pose for an engagement portrait. You'll want some great shots of the two of you to send to friends and family, you'll need a photo to send to local newspapers along with your engagement announcement, and you'll definitely want some keepsake shots that will always remind you of this special time in your life.


For many couples, the engagement-photo session is the first time they've ever posed for an official portrait together. But don't worry — it doesn't have to be a stuffy affair.

"We had so much fun with Courtney on our engagement session," says bride-to-be Megan, who was photographed with fiancee Josh by Courtney Mason of Courtney Mason Photography. "She truly has a talent; we really felt like she captured our love for each other. Courtney captured our personalities perfectly also. We are two country kids who just like to relax and enjoy each other's company." The two were photographed in Homestead Park in Hilliard in late May.

"When I am in a consultation with a prospective client, I always stress how important I feel the engagement session is," says Mason. "Not only is it a great way for them to see how I work and learn a little more about my shooting style, but it is also a wonderful opportunity for the three of us — bride, groom and photographer — to get to know each other better and really grow our relationship."

Megan and Josh met during their sophomore year of high school at a youth group at their church. They dated throughout high school, and though they went their separate ways in college, they always stayed in touch.

Their relationship resumed about a year and a half ago. "I emailed Josh out of the blue to catch up and make amends as friends," Megan says. "We met for dinner shortly after that, and soon realized the romance had never died for either of us."

Josh's proposal was a sweet surprise. "One snowy Sunday evening in December 2010, Josh picked me up for dinner. As he walked me to the passenger side of his pickup truck, he said he had found the pen I lost earlier that week and put it in his glove box. He opened my door and I opened the glove box as soon as I got in, expecting to find my favorite pen. To my surprise and excitement, I found taped to the inside of the glove box two pieces of paper that read ‘I love you Megan! Will you marry me?' with the ring in the ring box propped up next to them. I screamed and smiled and hugged and kissed him like crazy — and finally said yes!"

The couple plan to wed at Darby House on Sunday, Sept. 25. "Our pastor will be coming to perform the ceremony. Courtney is obviously our photographer, and we are so excited! The Darby House and Cameron Mitchell Catering have both been wonderful to work with. We chose the Darby House because it's out quite a ways from city life, yet it is still very classy and elegant," Megan says.

"What we are most looking forward to about our wedding is finally being married and finally being able to start our lives together," she adds. "A love story a long time in the making: 10+ years! But we know the Lord orchestrated every part and we each had a lot to learn before we could learn to love each other the way we needed to."

The Man in My Life

It's not every day a guy waltzes into my life and offers to walk me out to my car, open the door for me, and then blow me kisses as I'm pulling out of the driveway.  Kinda melts a girl's heart. 

It's just a little different, though, when it's your 3 1/2 year-old nephew. 

You've met Rocco before.  He stands about 3 feet tall, weighs 40-some odd pounds, has a shock of red hair, and loves to sing "I Gotta Feeling" by Black Eyed Peas as though he were the lead singer himself.  He still claims that I am his best friend and I'm honored with the title.

The boy certainly has his moments when you wonder what sort of crazy energy possesses the child, but for the most part he's a good kid - loud, but good. 

The other night I was over to my brother's house visiting with him and my sister-in-law and their three kids.  Rocco was just getting out of the bath tub when I arrived and when he came careening around the corner, he looked like he had just been set free from a prison in the North Pole.  He had this green and white-striped pajama suit on, with a train embroidered on the front of the chest.  My brother had just given him a buzz cut earlier that day so all his beautiful red hair was gone, and was now just a subtle strawberry-blonde. 

At one point, the poor kid had to be put in timeout he was getting so wound up and hyper.  And as he's sitting in the chair across the room from me, he leans forward and attempts to half-whisper, half-yell, "Tortney.  Maybe when I come to visit your house again, just you and me can play a game together."  The kid clearly gets tired of having to do whatever his big sister is doing, and wouldn't mind a little attention just to himself.  I laughed and told him of course we could play a game together.

He is eventually allowed up and at this point, it's time for me to head home.  I go to put my shoes on and Rocco comes running into the room, holding his hand up as though he's out to stop traffic, "Wait, wait!  I will walk you out to your car!"

I have never had him make such an offer before so I was little confused as to what was prompting it now, but I told him I'd wait.  Well, he just marches over to the door to leave, and I'm like, "Rocco, don't you think you ought to put some shoes and socks on first?"  "Oh, yeah, hold on."  So then he's scrambling to get his neon-green Velcro-strap sandals on before I can walk out the door without him.

He gets his sandals on, grabs my hand, and out the door we go.  Then he races ahead of me so he can open the car door.  He started opening the back door first and I told him, no, I'll be riding up front in the passenger seat (my mom was driving).  I had already started opening the front door and he stops me again.  "No, no!  I will open it for you!"  The door weighs way more than he does, so he struggles to open it.  We finally get it open, he takes a step back, lets me in.  Closes the door for me.  Walks back down the driveway and is standing there with his mom.  He starts blowing kisses and waving to my mom and I.  And at first, I just waved, didn't blow kisses.  Then he makes this indignant face at me like I better start blowing kisses or else.  So I do.  Then he gets all bashful and embarrassed, hiding behind his mom.  My sister-in-law is looking at us and making gestures like she has no idea where this child came from.

Rocco, you can be my knight in shining armor any day.  Green-striped pajamas and all.    

Notes to Self

When the directions in the hair dye kit tell you to do a color test first to see if you have any reactions, you probably should do so. They obviously put those few lines in there for a reason.  Doing a test is a good warning system. It lets you know if your scalp turns a lovely shade of Halloween-orange in the aftermath.

Thanks, Clairol Natural Instincts 2-Week Revitalizer, for bringing Halloween early to my small corner of the world.

I never have liked the holiday.

The Pages of History

I was in that category of people who got the kind of degree that their parents often gently nudged wouldn't be very practical.  You know, a degree in English, or a degree in theater.  Those kind of majors are always cautioned with the question, "Don't you think you oughta have a back up plan?"  Mine was a degree in history.  The simplified question was, "What do you do with a history degree other than teach?"  I had no desire to teach so I really had no good answer to that question. 

But I knew I loved history.  I loved stories and I loved the stories that history had to tell.  I remember going to Arlington National Cemetery in Washington, D.C. a few years ago with my mom and grandparents.  We went up to Arlington house at the top of the hill.  As we walked through the rooms, crowds of people everywhere, we came upon one of the family bedrooms.  The comforter was spread neatly, the furniture arranged just so.  And then there was a tiny little step stool next to the bed.  It was clearly a child's bedroom.  And as silly as it sounds, I nearly burst into tears right there because I had this compulsory thought, "Somebody lived here.  Somebody's life unfolded here, and somebody's story was told here.  Life happened here."  The moment just seemed so monumental to me.  But, of course, those are the ones that you keep to yourself, confident that you're crazy and that no one else will understand.   

I imagine I've had other such sentimental moments, moments when I'm struck by the ordinariness of lives lived out on the pages of history.  My grandmother (the same one who missed the memo about the iceberg in the previous post) recently unearthed a treasure trove of family history when she found a bag of old parchment letters and notes, primarily exchanges from two distant relatives who were writing back and forth about the research they had been doing of the family tree.  Most of the letters were from 1932-1936, each one building on the previous one as the two family members dug up more and more info about who was related to whom, where they lived, and where they came from.  My grandmother even managed to find the original Civil War draft papers for my great-great-great-something-or-other.  A small piece of paper, neatly scripted, with instructions to report to such and such a post on this day in 1864.  This relative of mine would go to war in May of 1864, only to be captured one month later and be held a prisoner of war for over a year.  He was released and eventually honorably discharged in June of 1865.  We also have the original souvenir poster of his honorable discharge, as a reminder of what the "Brave Boys in Blue" did to serve their country.  I am always awestruck by such mementos of history.  I mean, think about it - the Civil War!  All those years ago, and now in 2011, here we are looking at the original draft and discharge papers of a man I have never known.  I felt like I had struck gold as I poured over the material, reading the letters, following the stories, wondering about their lives.

But what struck me even more than finding such relics of the Civil War was one letter in particular that noted the children of one side of the family.  It was neatly typed on two thin pieces of parchment, folded in thirds, looking like it had been tea-stained.  It listed the 10 children of one son and then the 9 children of the other son.  It was toward the bottom, though, where I caught the line "had 1 son no good." 

That's all the letter pretty much says about this son.  No good. 

How's that for being defined by history?

To have your entire life summed in one singular phrase like no good is a disconcerting thought, and it's not even my life that is being described.  I know history can be harsh at times, telling us not what we want to hear, but what we need to hear.  But history can often be skewed by those on the outside looking in, those who have watched from afar.  I can't help but wonder - what's the one sentence history will write about us?  Us - as individuals, us as a nation, us as a family?  I surely hope it's not no good.  And what are we doing about it to see to it that such sentences aren't left on the pages of history?  

I don't want my life to be defined by the phrase no good.  I wouldn't want my grandchildren or great-grandchildren or great-great-grandchildren to someday unearth a pile of letters, exchanges between two people tracing the family line, and have the sentence say about me one daughter, no good, or really anything else remotely resembling the concept. 

Instead, I hope the phrase well done, good and faithful servant applies to my life and those to follow.

I Want a Dog Like This

While Jill and I were cruising down the highway on our way back from Nashville last weekend, we came upon this little red truck.  At first, I didn't think much of it, but then I had to do a double-take.  I thought, "There is no way that is a dog on the back of that truck."  We're cruising along at 70-something miles per hour and this little truck was passing us.  But yes, lo and behold, not only was this dog sitting atop the tool box in the bed, he was asleep.   Eyes closed, content as could be, oblivious to the fact that he could potentially be toast in a matter of seconds if an accident were to happen.  At this point, Jill and I were in the middle of a really intense emotional conversation and I finally had to tell her, "Jill - I hate to interrupt this moment, but I have to get a picture of this."  I couldn't believe it.  Where can I find me a dog like that?  



God Bless Grandmothers

I dearly love my grandmother.  I have few child memories apart from her and my grandfather and their farm.  My grandfather was always the one, though, that had such an imposing force throughout all of my memories.  I think I just saw him as larger-than-life when I was child and so I carry around that image in my head.  It was my grandmother, however, who always lingered in the shadows of my thoughts, always quietly loving her children and grandchildren, and occasionally sweeping a baby lamb out of the house that dared to follow me in. (I kid you not.  She literally took a broom to my baby lamb and swept it out the door after he followed me along when I went inside to get a drink.  She was not a fan of having animals in the house, despite my grandfather clearly ignoring her wishes and frequently keeping newborn lambs and calves in a box in the wash room so he could nurse them back to health.)

After my grandfather died a couple of years ago, we weren't sure how my grandmother would take it.  They were approaching their 55th wedding anniversary shortly before he died, and she was going to go either one of two ways: die right along with him or blossom and find a new set of wings.  She did the latter.  The woman is busier than ever and if her head weren't attached, she'd probably leave it behind with all that she tries to keep track of.  She'll celebrate her 80th birthday in July, and even at her age, she's still advising youth in 4-H (her and my grandfather have both been inducted into the Ohio 4-H Hall of Fame), still sewing like a mad woman, volunteering for this and that, and rarely misses a breakfast at the Der Dutchman.  She does occasionally have two different colored shoes on and doesn't notice it, but she's still trucking along, living life.  

Sometimes, though, you hear the phrase only this would happen to her in relation to my grandmother.

Case in point:

She's on a cruise this week.  In Alaska.

The woman has never set foot on a cruise ship before in her life, let alone one in Alaska.  But a friend of hers coaxed her into going as part of a 4-H group and so she went.  She booked her flight, booked the cruise, and got about 30 pages into Michener's Alaska and gave up on it, before she decided she better start packing.  I assisted her with the packing and that in and of itself was a trip, so to speak.  I walk into her living room last week and she has clothes sprawled everywhere. I had to gently tell her,"Now, Grandma.  You're only going to be gone for 7 days and, quite frankly, nobody is going to care if you wear the same pants 3 days in a row."  So we trimmed things down a bit and sent her on her way.

Then this morning, I get a strange phone call from my mother.  "What are you talking about?"  No hello, no greeting, nothing.  "Uhhh...hello?  Mom?  What do you mean, what am I talking about?"  "What are you talking about?"  "Mom.  I have no idea what you're talking about." "What is this about Grandma's ship hitting an iceberg?  Let me call you back."

I am super confused at this point.

I dig around online to see if I can find anything.  USAToday has an article and I glance over it and see that everything is okay.  The ship had merely hit an iceberg, but did not breach the hull.  Everyone's fine and they went on as scheduled.

My mother calls back with more details.  Apparently someone had mentioned something to my aunt at work, "How's your mom doing?"  "She's fine - how should she be doing?"  "Oh well, I heard a cruise ship in Alaska hit an iceberg."  Of course, a flurry of activity, panic, tears, and text messages ensue, based solely on the statement that the ship had hit an iceberg and nothing more.   As all good daughters do, they picture the worse case scenario that their beloved mother could be in.  Images of Titanic are floating through their heads at this point and until they hear from my grandmother, they are not thinking otherwise.

My mother mistakenly calls me thinking I sent the text about the ship hitting the 'berg, thus the confusing phone call.  She eventually calls my grandmother, no answer.  She calls my grandmother's friend, who thankfully does answer.

Allow me some creative license as I envision how this conversation between my mother, grandmother, and the friend went, based on my mother's recap of the details:

"Mom, how are you doing?  Is everything okay?"

"Oh yeah, we're just doing just fine!  How are you?  How's everything back home?"

"Fine, but we saw where an iceberg hit the ship.  Are you all right?"

"Me? Oh, I'm fine, just fine.  Having a wonderful time.  What iceberg?  We didn't hit an iceberg. There's no icebergs here.  It's bright and sunny!"

Friend in the background, yelling: "Yes, we did, Doris!  Why do you think the Coast Guard was here all day yesterday?!"

I am not exaggerating.  My precious grandmother - who may be slightly forgetful, but has her wits about her - was not paying any attention and did not realize they had hit an iceberg.

I suppose if I were from the South, the appropriate response would be "bless your little heart."

God bless grandmothers.  They really are something special.

I want to be just like my grandmother when I'm that age.  Eighty-years old and going on cruises to Alaska.  Graceful and loving life, innocently -and endearingly so - living in her own little world.

I'll just have to remember to pay attention to the icebergs.    


     

Long Time, No See

Ahhh, Matt Wertz. So good to see you again, my friend.

My buddy Jill and I took a road trip down to Nashville (NashVegas to some) this past weekend to see Matt Wertz and Ben Rector in concert.  The last time I saw Matt in concert was 4 years ago and the ticket cost $5 - and to be honest, I didn't know who Ben was until probably a month ago when we decided to actually make the trip happen. 

It was at this little venue called Exit/In in the West End of Nashville, near Vanderbilt's campus.  We spent Friday night and Saturday morning/early afternoon bumming around downtown Nashville, The Gulch, and then the West End.  So many great little niches in the area.  And after walking around Vandy's campus, I had fleeting thoughts of wondering why I didn't go to school there. 

Our tickets said 8:00 start time.  So, in my orderly little mind I took that to mean the show would actually begin at that time, with doors opening maybe an hour or so early.  I should know better when it comes to such things.  We walk up at 7:15 or so and there is already a line of people waiting.  So we jump in line, thinking the doors will open soon.  But no.  The doors don't even open until 8, let alone have the show start.   We finally get in, get settled up on the balcony, decent view.  Eight-thirty rolls around.  No Ben.  Nine comes and goes.  No Ben.  Not even so much as someone walking on stage to check his guitar or something.  Jill and I are checking our watches, thinking we are such grandmas because we are already yawning, thinking what a brutal morning it is going to be after being up so late and then having a 7-hour drive ahead of us.  Nine-thirty - movement behind the curtain.  It's Ben!  Finally!  He jams out to a few songs, and then the magic hour rolls around.

Matt makes it on stage at 10:30 and I think I broke out into the most absurd grin ever.  I adore this guy and I love his music!  He plays a great set and then about part-way through, he's talking about how he wrote this next song with a good buddy of his,  Dave Barnes.  Then Dave walks out!  Could the night get any better?!  I was done checking my watch at this point.  We stuck around for the encore songs and walked into fresh air at 12:15 a.m.  My body didn't know what to do at that hour.

Matt Wertz and Ben Rector - you were worth the 14-hour round-trip from Ohio, the long wait in line, the hotel bill, and everything in between.

But do you think you could make it to Columbus next time?     

My dear Wormwood

A devotion from the NIV Women’s Devotional Bible, written by Beth Donigan Seversen:

The Screwtape Letters by C. S. Lewis is a fictitious diary of scolding letters from a mature demon (Screwtape) to his young nephew (Wormwood). It is Wormwood’s job to keep a recent convert to Christianity from being productive for Christ (the Enemy). Screwtape’s letters point out where Wormwood has failed or missed an opportunity. I have often mused that there must be a missing appendix to these letters somewhere that reads like this …


My dear Wormwood,

The following instructions shall help you proceed in handicapping your convert’s effectiveness in the Enemy’s kingdom. One of our great allies at present is her perception of herself. It is your task, therefore, to feed her poor self-esteem. Already she wastes time primping in front of the mirror and worrying about her looks.

You must continue to encourage her to compare herself with so-called “spiritual giants” whom she admires. This will eventually immobilize her. When she feels inadequate she will no longer attempt anything for the Enemy’s kingdom because of her fear of failure. Her warped self-image will lead to unhealthy relationships and hinder her ability to love others. The more often she tells herself that she is a bad person – that she’s not competent – the more easily she will feel threatened by others. This will turn others off to the Enemy and his loathsome Christianity.

Ultimately, her relationship with the Enemy himself will be adversely affected. Since she is not satisfied with how the Enemy has created her, her intimacy with Him will be destroyed and she will find it difficult to trust the Enemy, pray to Him or read that detestable Book.

Finally, emphasize her weaknesses so repeatedly that she begins to believe that she is unimportant to the Enemy. This will push her to compulsive striving to please Him through her own accomplishments. Her works will no longer be motivated by faith, but by a dislike for herself. Confuse her so that she never feels forgiven. If you successfully convince her that the Enemy is never pleased with her, she will grow weary and give up altogether. But more of this in my next letter.

Your affectionate uncle,
Screwtape

Depraved Indifference